{"id":75,"date":"2009-07-20T21:42:16","date_gmt":"2009-07-21T02:42:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/joeyhand.com\/blog\/?p=75"},"modified":"2020-12-29T18:06:43","modified_gmt":"2020-12-29T23:06:43","slug":"parenting-books-are-a-joke","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/2009\/07\/20\/parenting-books-are-a-joke\/","title":{"rendered":"Parenting Books Are a Joke"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Tonight at supper, Pete complained that he didn&#8217;t want to eat his squash because he didn&#8217;t like squash. Hard for most parents to imagine, I&#8217;m sure. I commented, &#8220;The parenting books say that if your child says he doesn&#8217;t like something, he should try it 15 times before you stop forcing it on him. 15 times!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Pete made a funny face, laughed, and said &#8220;Parenting book?!?!!&#8221; thinking that I was pulling his leg that there would actually be A Parenting Book. Apparently, to a 9-year-old, a book on parenting is just a big joke. At which point Debbie, who procures our vast library of parenting books, went and pulled one from the shelf that seemed relevant to the conversation at hand, &#8220;Kid Cooperation: How to Stop Yelling, Nagging &amp; Pleading and Get Kids to Cooperate.&#8221; &#8230; Frankly, with a title like that, I have to admit I&#8217;m more with Pete&#8217;s &#8220;You&#8217;re kidding me, right?&#8221; reaction. But Debbie turned to one of the 5 pages flagged with Post-It notes, and read a few items from the list, &#8220;Reminder Page &#8211; Cooperation&#8221; [p. 55]. I particularly noticed the next to last one, &#8220;Use Humor,&#8221; which actually works pretty well with Pete.<a href=\"http:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/images\/perfectparenting.gif\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright\" title=\"Perfect Parenting book\" src=\"http:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/images\/perfectparenting.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"240\" height=\"240\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I walked in to the bookshelf and grabbed several more off the shelf to show Pete there was actually more than one and then read the titles:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;<em>Perfect Parenting<\/em>. Obviously, Daddy&#8217;s got this one down pat. Look, there&#8217;s even a bicycle on the cover because a perfect parent rides a bicycle.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;<em>When We&#8217;re in Public, Pretend You Don&#8217;t Know Me: Surviving Your Daughter&#8217;s Adolescence So You Don&#8217;t Look Like an Idiot and She Still Talks to You.<\/em> &#8230; Ok, this one, I think the secret is not to use so many words and you don&#8217;t look like an idiot.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;<em>101 Essential Tips: Cat Care<\/em>&#8221; [no comment&#8211;self explanatory]<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;<em>Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles<\/em>&#8220;<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;and finally, <em>Migraine: The Complete Guide<\/em>.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>(He finally ate the squash.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tonight at supper, Pete complained that he didn&#8217;t want to eat his squash because he didn&#8217;t like squash. Hard for most parents to imagine, I&#8217;m sure. I commented, &#8220;The parenting books say that if your child says he doesn&#8217;t like something, he should try it 15 times before you stop forcing it on him. 15 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,10,4,3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-75","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-food","category-household","category-kids","category-pete"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/75","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=75"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/75\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":315,"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/75\/revisions\/315"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=75"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=75"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.joeyhand.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=75"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}